eone who is willing to give your ideas a try, and someone who has some ideas of his own. If your partner is not willing to play along, this is valuable information for you to know.

If you cannot count on your partner to gravitate toward positive and lasting change or at least the willingness to give a new direction a try in order to improve your relationship, this person is not the one for you. Good relationships require both partners to be engaged and for both partners to want to generate good thing

Create your relationships rather than complain about them. This may seem obvious but when relationships are not going as hoped most people will waste an inordinate amount of time and energy complaining and dwelling on the negative aspects. If this is really where you want to stay and focus your thoughts, why not just get out of it all together? I promise you that continuing to complain will never make it better. It will never promote positive insights. It will never move you further in the direction you are hoping for.

When was the last time you had an excruciating toothache and found that complaining about it for hours on end made it feel better? Never. What made it feel better was medicine or some other at home remedy that was designed to nurture and care for the tooth and gums surrounding it. Perhaps even taking a walk in the fresh air and putting yourself in a positive frame of mind made it feel better. The same is true in love. Complaining about something your partner is doing that is driving you crazy is only going to make it more prominent in your relationship. Talking about it with your friends is going to attract more of it to you. Telling your partner for the hundredth time that you are unhappy will create more unhappiness between you.

So, if you truly want to improve the quality of your relationships and have love in your life, what choice do you have? It seems clear that the only option worth discussing is the one that involves positive intention and positive action. If you are not happy with the way something is going, determine what it is you do want and then take steps to create it. Tell your partner what you need and what is important to you (without telling him or her what you are upset about) and then tell him your ideas for creating it. Ask your partner what he/she would like to do and ask him what is important to him. Communicate and instead of anticipating nothing good will come from the conversation, expect you will get exactly what you need – someone who will listen to you, someone who is willing to give your ideas a try, and someone who has some ideas of his own. If your partner is not willing to play along, this is valuable information for you to know.

If you cannot count on your partner to gravitate toward positive and lasting change or at least the willingness to give a new direction a try in order to improve your relationship, this person is not the one for you. Good relationships require both partners to be engaged and for both partners to want to generate good things

e hoping for.

When was the last time you had an excruciating toothache and found that complaining about it for hours on end made it feel better? Never. What made it feel better was medicine or some other at home remedy that was designed to nurture and care for the tooth and gums surrounding it. Perhaps even taking a walk in the fresh air and putting yourself in a positive frame of mind made it feel better. The same is true in love. Complaining about something your partner is doing that is driving you crazy is only going to make it more prominent in your relationship. Talking about it with your friends is going to attract more of it to you. Telling your partner for the hundredth time that you are unhappy will create more unhappiness between you.

So, if you truly want to improve the quality of your relationships and have love in your life, what choice do you have? It seems clear that the only option worth discussing is the one that involves positive intention and positive action. If you are not happy with the way something is going, determine what it is you do want and then take steps to create it. Tell your partner what you need and what is important to you (without telling him or her what you are upset about) and then tell him your ideas for creating it. Ask your partner what he/she would like to do and ask him what is important to him. Communicate and instead of anticipating nothing good will come from the conversation, expect you will get exactly what you need – someone who will listen to you, someone who is willing to give your ideas a try, and someone who has some ideas of his own. If your partner is not willing to play along, this is valuable information for you to know.

If you cannot count on your partner to gravitate toward positive and lasting change or at least the willingness to give a new direction a try in order to improve your relationship, this person is not the one for you. Good relationships require both partners to be engaged and for both partners to want to generate good thing

crazy is only going to make it more prominent in your relationship. Talking about it with your friends is going to attract more of it to you. Telling your partner for the hundredth time that you are unhappy will create more unhappiness between you.

So, if you truly want to improve the quality of your relationships and have love in your life, what choice do you have? It seems clear that the only option worth discussing is the one that involves positive intention and positive action. If you are not happy with the way something is going, determine what it is you do want and then take steps to create it. Tell your partner what you need and what is important to you (without telling him or her what you are upset about) and then tell him your ideas for creating it. Ask your partner what he/she would like to do and ask him what is important to him. Communicate and instead of anticipating nothing good will come from the conversation, expect you will get exactly what you need – someone who will listen to you, someone who is willing to give your ideas a try, and someone who has some ideas of his own. If your partner is not willing to play along, this is valuable information for you to know.

If you cannot count on your partner to gravitate toward positive and lasting change or at least the willingness to give a new direction a try in order to improve your relationship, this person is not the one for you. Good relationships require both partners to be engaged and for both partners to want to generate good thing

y with the way something is going, determine what it is you do want and then take steps to create it. Tell your partner what you need and what is important to you (without telling him or her what you are upset about) and then tell him your ideas for creating it. Ask your partner what he/she would like to do and ask him what is important to him. Communicate and instead of anticipating nothing good will come from the conversation, expect you will get exactly what you need – someone who will listen to you, someone who is willing to give your ideas a try, and someone who has some ideas of his own. If your partner is not willing to play along, this is valuable information for you to know.

If you cannot count on your partner to gravitate toward positive and lasting change or at least the willingness to give a new direction a try in order to improve your relationship, this person is not the one for you. Good relationships require both partners to be engaged and for both partners to want to generate good thing

eone who is willing to give your ideas a try, and someone who has some ideas of his own. If your partner is not willing to play along, this is valuable information for you to know.

If you cannot count on your partner to gravitate toward positive and lasting change or at least the willingness to give a new direction a try in order to improve your relationship, this person is not the one for you. Good relationships require both partners to be engaged and for both partners to want to generate good things together. Growth and deep love does not happen by just floating along. It happens by continuing to create a space that feels good for each of you on a daily basis. Your relationship may need the help of a professional counselor, a little weekend vacation to get yourselves to a place where you can focus on each other, or a brief conversation where each of you is able to communicate how you feel, what you need and what you want. But I assure you, it does not need the energy it takes to complain. Spend time creating your relationships and you will have no time to complain.