f and dealing with problems in your stride. After all, we have all had events that seemed catastrophic at the time that turned out to be blessings in disguise when looked back at them weeks, months or even years later. The firing that lead to starting a business, the break up that lead to a more fulfilling relationship or maybe even that illness that lead to takiThe more life coaching I do the more I come to believe that the quality of our life and those around us is heavily influenced by the quality of our questions, and by that I do not necessarily mean the questions we ask of others but the ones that we ask of ourselves.

I want to tell you about the two questions that I think are the most powerful in the world. I am absolutely serious about this, if you can bring these questions to mind in moments of crisis I guarantee that you will immediately be better able to deal with the issue in hand.

The first question is to be used when something has not gone as planned. It may be you missed a job opportunity or even lost your own job, it may be something less stressful like losing a round of golf or not hitting your target weight by the date you set. It can be used in a multitude of different circumstances and as you play about with it I am sure you will those that are most useful to you.

What Can I Learn From This Situation?

Simple really like most great things, but it does work. If when things do not go to plan you can still extract some positives and use it as a learning experience then each subsequent event will improve. The problem many people have a tendency to dwell on the negative rather than the positive. Most situations do contain a positive even if it is very well hidden. If you can become a master as extracting it then you will also be a master at improving yourself and dealing with problems in your stride. After all, we have all had events that seemed catastrophic at the time that turned out to be blessings in disguise when looked back at them weeks, months or even years later. The firing that lead to starting a business, the break up that lead to a more fulfilling relationship or maybe even that illness that lead to takin

I am absolutely serious about this, if you can bring these questions to mind in moments of crisis I guarantee that you will immediately be better able to deal with the issue in hand.

The first question is to be used when something has not gone as planned. It may be you missed a job opportunity or even lost your own job, it may be something less stressful like losing a round of golf or not hitting your target weight by the date you set. It can be used in a multitude of different circumstances and as you play about with it I am sure you will those that are most useful to you.

What Can I Learn From This Situation?

Simple really like most great things, but it does work. If when things do not go to plan you can still extract some positives and use it as a learning experience then each subsequent event will improve. The problem many people have a tendency to dwell on the negative rather than the positive. Most situations do contain a positive even if it is very well hidden. If you can become a master as extracting it then you will also be a master at improving yourself and dealing with problems in your stride. After all, we have all had events that seemed catastrophic at the time that turned out to be blessings in disguise when looked back at them weeks, months or even years later. The firing that lead to starting a business, the break up that lead to a more fulfilling relationship or maybe even that illness that lead to taki

ke losing a round of golf or not hitting your target weight by the date you set. It can be used in a multitude of different circumstances and as you play about with it I am sure you will those that are most useful to you.

What Can I Learn From This Situation?

Simple really like most great things, but it does work. If when things do not go to plan you can still extract some positives and use it as a learning experience then each subsequent event will improve. The problem many people have a tendency to dwell on the negative rather than the positive. Most situations do contain a positive even if it is very well hidden. If you can become a master as extracting it then you will also be a master at improving yourself and dealing with problems in your stride. After all, we have all had events that seemed catastrophic at the time that turned out to be blessings in disguise when looked back at them weeks, months or even years later. The firing that lead to starting a business, the break up that lead to a more fulfilling relationship or maybe even that illness that lead to taki

an still extract some positives and use it as a learning experience then each subsequent event will improve. The problem many people have a tendency to dwell on the negative rather than the positive. Most situations do contain a positive even if it is very well hidden. If you can become a master as extracting it then you will also be a master at improving yourself and dealing with problems in your stride. After all, we have all had events that seemed catastrophic at the time that turned out to be blessings in disguise when looked back at them weeks, months or even years later. The firing that lead to starting a business, the break up that lead to a more fulfilling relationship or maybe even that illness that lead to takif and dealing with problems in your stride. After all, we have all had events that seemed catastrophic at the time that turned out to be blessings in disguise when looked back at them weeks, months or even years later. The firing that lead to starting a business, the break up that lead to a more fulfilling relationship or maybe even that illness that lead to taking better care of your body.

What Else Can This Mean?

I love this question, I really do. It is one that I use on a daily basis. Think of this scenario: You have arranged to meet your partner or good friend for dinner and you arrive on time at the restaurant. The other person still hasn’t shown up after 10 minutes and you start to say to yourself “typical, she is always late, she simply has no respect for other people” Not really very useful is it and not very likely to pave the way for a great night out? How about if you asked yourself what else can this mean? Now you have choices. The internal voice could now be saying “she must really care about me because she is obviously taking the time to look her best” or “It really wasn’t very thoughtful of me to pick a restaurant that is so dogged by bad traffic I’d better make a real effort to make up with a great night” Both of these are guaranteed to prevent any arguments and make sure you keep things in perspective.

Think about if for a moment and reflect on the last time that you had an argument with a loved one. Try and briefly regain those feelings, what you saw, what you heard and what you felt. Now try and recreate the internal dialogue that is going on inside your head.

What are you saying to yourself? Are you asking questions that are helpful? More likely are you asking questions that are likely to lead to an argument? In moments like this we will often disappear