Atricle Dump - Make Communication Work For You

Differences in communication styles or the communication styles themselves are often the cause of problems, rather than the content that's being communicated. Often we see these problems occur when the topic is difficult; no one has trouble communicating around the success of the project, the awards ceremony for the team, and the overall good health of the company!

What if the topic is difficult?

When Jane and Bob need to discuss a problem, a broken commitment, or a difficult situation, they use the following formula.

CPR

* Content
* Pattern
* Relationship

Content

The first time a problem occurs, talk about the content – what happened. Usually it's a single event, and it only involves the here and now.

Pattern

The next time the problem occurs, talk about the pattern – what has been happening over time. Patterns acknowledge that problems have histories, and histories make a difference. Frequent and continued violations affect the other person's predictability and eventually upset trust and respect.

Relationship

If the problem persists, talk about the relationship – what's happening to us, and why does this keep recurring. Relationship concerns are bigger than content or pattern. The string of disappointments has caused you to lose trust in the other person. You doubt his competency, you don't respect or trust his promises, and it's affecting the way you treat one another.

Clearing the air

Jane and Bob make communication work for them by being clear about their expectations as well as about problems that come up. You need to do the same. Don't be vague!!! Be specific about what you want and by when.

Vague: "I need this finished right away." Clear: "I need this research document complete and to me by Wednesday."

Vague: "It's important for you to play well with the other departments." Clear: "In order for your department to work effectively with _____ department, you need to discontinue bad-mouthing or gossiping about the ________ department and their problems to your staff. Discuss any issues you have with that department head or with me."

Don't assume that because you made a statement or request the other person has agreed. Ask her! "Monica, I'd like this project completed and results to me by next Thursday. Is there any reason you can't deliver it by then?" Confirm with her that she not only will deliver what you requested, but also by the date needed. Build This Habit and Watch It Build You - Financially
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What if the topic is difficult?

When Jane and Bob need to discuss a problem, a broken commitment, or a difficult situation, they use the following formula.

CPR

* Content
* Pattern
* Relationship

Content

The first time a problem occurs, talk about the content – what happened. Usually it's a single event, and it only involves the here and now.

Pattern

The next time the problem occurs, talk about the pattern – what has been happening over time. Patterns acknowledge that problems have histories, and histories make a difference. Frequent and continued violations affect the other person's predictability and eventually upset trust and respect.

Relationship

If the problem persists, talk about the relationship – what's happening to us, and why does this keep recurring. Relationship concerns are bigger than content or pattern. The string of disappointments has caused you to lose trust in the other person. You doubt his competency, you don't respect or trust his promises, and it's affecting the way you treat one another.

Clearing the air

Jane and Bob make communication work for them by being clear about their expectations as well as about problems that come up. You need to do the same. Don't be vague!!! Be specific about what you want and by when.

Vague: "I need this finished right away." Clear: "I need this research document complete and to me by Wednesday."

Vague: "It's important for you to play well with the other departments." Clear: "In order for your department to work effectively with _____ department, you need to discontinue bad-mouthing or gossiping about the ________ department and their problems to your staff. Discuss any issues you have with that department head or with me."

Don't assume that because you made a statement or request the other person has agreed. Ask her! "Monica, I'd like this project completed and results to me by next Thursday. Is there any reason you can't deliver it by then?" Confirm with her that she not only will deliver what you requested, but also by the date needed. So What's Next? The Secret to Assessments
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Relationship

If the problem persists, talk about the relationship – what's happening to us, and why does this keep recurring. Relationship concerns are bigger than content or pattern. The string of disappointments has caused you to lose trust in the other person. You doubt his competency, you don't respect or trust his promises, and it's affecting the way you treat one another.

Clearing the air

Jane and Bob make communication work for them by being clear about their expectations as well as about problems that come up. You need to do the same. Don't be vague!!! Be specific about what you want and by when.

Vague: "I need this finished right away." Clear: "I need this research document complete and to me by Wednesday."

Vague: "It's important for you to play well with the other departments." Clear: "In order for your department to work effectively with _____ department, you need to discontinue bad-mouthing or gossiping about the ________ department and their problems to your staff. Discuss any issues you have with that department head or with me."

Don't assume that because you made a statement or request the other person has agreed. Ask her! "Monica, I'd like this project completed and results to me by next Thursday. Is there any reason you can't deliver it by then?" Confirm with her that she not only will deliver what you requested, but also by the date needed. Business Coach - What A Business Coach Can Do For You
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Clearing the air

Jane and Bob make communication work for them by being clear about their expectations as well as about problems that come up. You need to do the same. Don't be vague!!! Be specific about what you want and by when.

Vague: "I need this finished right away." Clear: "I need this research document complete and to me by Wednesday."

Vague: "It's important for you to play well with the other departments." Clear: "In order for your department to work effectively with _____ department, you need to discontinue bad-mouthing or gossiping about the ________ department and their problems to your staff. Discuss any issues you have with that department head or with me."

Don't assume that because you made a statement or request the other person has agreed. Ask her! "Monica, I'd like this project completed and results to me by next Thursday. Is there any reason you can't deliver it by then?" Confirm with her that she not only will deliver what you requested, but also by the date needed. Office Affiars - A Special Kind of Stress
Affairs between coworkers are not something new. For the most part the common reaction among the onlookers is one of surprise. Sometimes it is also one of criticism or condemnation. Occasionally it also provokes jealousy, as was the recent unprecedented case among the astronauts. Looked at from a broader perspective, affairs at work bear much in common with affairs at church. But it should come as no surprise that marriednt to work effectively with _____ department, you need to discontinue bad-mouthing or gossiping about the ________ department and their problems to your staff. Discuss any issues you have with that department head or with me."

Don't assume that because you made a statement or request the other person has agreed. Ask her! "Monica, I'd like this project completed and results to me by next Thursday. Is there any reason you can't deliver it by then?" Confirm with her that she not only will deliver what you requested, but also by the date needed.

Tying it up

At the end of the conversation, ask the person to explain to you what he believes you want. This provides you the opportunity to make sure he heard you correctly, and, if not, to change or modify what he thinks.

Often, the gap between your request and what you receive is because of misunderstandings about the specifics.

Armed with the CPR (Content, Pattern, and Relationship) and understanding the necessity of being clear, Jane and Bob have the tools to build and maintain an effective work environment with individuals who understand what's expected of them.

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